Trust.
Anyone who has been betrayed or been let down by people in their lives, especially in a major way such as with infidelity, abuse, or divorce , will flinch at the word trust.
It is so, SO essential to healing, though.
There's a moot caveat, though. Your trust must be in God.
Step one! Are you mad at God? Disappointed at Him? Can't believe where you are or what you are dealing with?
He says "Trust Me."
Don't for a second get involved with another human being romantically until you have dealt with this issue, because it is so all-encompassing.
Search your heart - what do you need to confess? Where are you hurting? Lay it on Him. He can take it.
Then, if you aren't doing it already, talk to Him daily, and read the Bible. Don't have a Bible? Email us back. Find the Word and read it. It's alive, it's His loving and living epistle to us.
Now you've set the ground work for trusting Him. You put the former things aside, you confessed your sins, you opened up.
It's hard. The reality me though, is this - He has never let you down, He has never forsaken you. Even when we are sinners, He knows the entire path of our life. Nothing surprises Him.
Why am I in this mess, you may ask. He will show you- but you have to have an open heart.
Often, we don't get the answers we seek.
Trust Him.
It's another thing you have to apply on your life - like forgiveness. It may be a foreign subject to you. You may have put all your trust in an idea. A person. A family.
Ultimately, people are people and will let you down - just as you have let others down...even let yourself down. Reference back to forgiveness.
If you are repentant, humble,many trusting God...that means that no matter what the circumstances are saying, no matter how people are responding to you, no matter what- you trust that He knows. HE cares. He is omnipotent, all powerful, and He will take care of you.
It's a relationship with God. He wants to hear from us. He wants to heal us. He wants us to grow, so we can make disciples, and help heal others.
Proverbs 3:5-6 says "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not upon your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path."
If we lean on what we know, we are going off past hurts, and what we see and feel. When we trust God with all our hearts, the all knowing, all seeing God takes into consideration all that we don't know. And that's a lot!
Joshua 1:9 have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; be not afraid, neither be you dismayed; for the Lord your God is with you wherever You go.
Psalms 9:10 and they that know your name will put their trust in You; for You, Lord, have not forsaken them that seek You.
Psalms 20:7 some trust in chariots, and some in horses: but we will remember the name of the Lord our God.
Proverbs 28:26 he that trusts his own heart is a fool, but whoever walks wisely, He shall be delivered.
Look up "trust" in a Bible concordance- there are many, many more verses!
